Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC With the start of a new year comes hopes of changed behaviors and a better life. Perhaps you have fallen off of your New Year's Resolution plan already. If so, you are in good company. Most people desert their new year's resolution by mid January. There is nothing inherently wrong with having a New Year's Resolution or ending your pursuit of a new goal. Or even with recommitting to your goal after falling off. However, there are some things

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You care a lot about what your partner wants and you will do almost anything to make them happy. So, when they bring up something that they want a certain way or something that isn't working, you do your very best to make things right. You're usually pretty good at doing things the right way in every other part of your life, so it's a bit a of shock when they continue to criticize you after you've done your best. You try to talk to tell them

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC This is one of the top questions that I have heard from couples over the years. Sometimes it isn't even a question, its a declaration. "I think we're just too different to make this work." I hear this the most when things have been really hard for quite awhile. It seems to be the answer that makes the most sense for them. The thing is though, it doesn't have to be that black and white. There is a lot more nuance to this situations than just,

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC Ooof! The question alone feels like a gut punch! You've tried to push the thought away, tried to explain it away, but still settles in you like a pit in your stomach. It is deeply painful to consider, but you know you have to face it. You can't ignore it and you're not entirely sure what the thought means. Are you being anxious? Are you blowing things out of porportion? Are they on their way out of the relationship? What are you missing? It