Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You have been sitting with this gnawing feeling for quite some time now. You might be engaged or have been considering marriage and the possibility feels like it is looming. It feels like the walls are closing in on you and you just don't know if you can make the right choice. How can you know for sure if they are really the right person? How can you know if marriage is really right for you? Let's go back to the beginning. It started out wel

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC With the start of a new year comes hopes of changed behaviors and a better life. Perhaps you have fallen off of your New Year's Resolution plan already. If so, you are in good company. Most people desert their new year's resolution by mid January. There is nothing inherently wrong with having a New Year's Resolution or ending your pursuit of a new goal. Or even with recommitting to your goal after falling off. However, there are some things

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You care a lot about what your partner wants and you will do almost anything to make them happy. So, when they bring up something that they want a certain way or something that isn't working, you do your very best to make things right. You're usually pretty good at doing things the right way in every other part of your life, so it's a bit a of shock when they continue to criticize you after you've done your best. You try to talk to tell them

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC This is one of the top questions that I have heard from couples over the years. Sometimes it isn't even a question, its a declaration. "I think we're just too different to make this work." I hear this the most when things have been really hard for quite awhile. It seems to be the answer that makes the most sense for them. The thing is though, it doesn't have to be that black and white. There is a lot more nuance to this situations than just,

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC Ooof! The question alone feels like a gut punch! You've tried to push the thought away, tried to explain it away, but still settles in you like a pit in your stomach. It is deeply painful to consider, but you know you have to face it. You can't ignore it and you're not entirely sure what the thought means. Are you being anxious? Are you blowing things out of porportion? Are they on their way out of the relationship? What are you missing? It

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You're well aware that you and your partner are supposed to make decisions together. However, that knowledge doesn't make it any easier to do. There is something that makes it so easy to discount their input, almost automatically, that you don't even notice it all the time. Your partner notices though and they definitely let you know how they feel about it. They don't feel considered or like you two are equals because they don't get to have

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC I hear this line of questioning more and more. It is a question begging to know, is this my fault and...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You find yourself in the same loop. A partner, friend or family member mentions the same thing that...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You know that communication is important. And technically, you and your partner are communicating,...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC Perhaps you have heard that validating your partner's emotions and experiences will help them feel...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC You're confused. You're frustrated and you're not quite sure how you two got here because when you...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC They're there, but they're not there, you know? You see them everyday, you talk about the things that...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC If you told the people in your life that you were struggling, they might not believe you. You always...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC The disagreement begins and you can feel the tension building in your chest. You're filled with dread...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC It is a horrible option to have to weigh in your mind. You have spent so much time creating a life...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC So many people like to say that when you have met someone worth committing to for the long haul, that...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC If you're new to Denver, welcome! If you've been here quite a while and you're struggling to make...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC There are so many resources out there claiming to help, but how do you know what is right for you?...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC The holidays will be here before you know it. With the holidays often comes a lot of time with family...

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC This might be the information that others don't want you to see. Getting back with your ex can be an...