Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC It is painful to come to the conclusion that it is time to go your separate ways. What can be even harder is figuring out the right way to do it. How do you split up in a way that prevents you from becoming enemies, yet prevents becoming so friendly that you board the on-again-off-again relationship roller coaster? It is tricky territory to navigate. Of course you want to be kind. You two had a connection. You want to honor what you had, the

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC Most of us have received the relationship advice that it is very important to be on the same page as your partner. It's not bad advice, it is really helpful to be on the same page as your partner. But now you find yourself in a situation that feels like it contradicts that advice. Lately, it feels like you agree on most things, but you still don't feel close. There is a distance that is difficult to describe. It may sometimes feel like you'r

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC If you have been following my blog posts about attachment styles, then you know that understanding your attachment styles and how they show up in relationship can help you have a safe and secure relationship. So far, in our exploration of the attachment styles, we have covered the insecure attachment styles: anxious attachment , avoidant attachment and disorganized attachment . Now, we will explore what is the considered the healthiest atta

Written By Ashley Gray, LCSW, MFTC In continuing my overview of attachment patterns, this post will be about disorganized attachment patterns. For those that may not be familiar, attachment patterns are are how you give, receive, and respond to love in a relationship. The patterns are characterized by how (or if) you advocate for your needs and respond to the needs of your partner. You can find my post on anxious attachment patterns here and my post on avoidant attachment