You Don't Have to Feel Miserable
Loneliness and overwhelm take the place of the confidence, levity and peace that you once experienced in your relationship. You find yourself in the place of not knowing what to do next. You dread the conversation you don’t want to have, but you know you need to. You need answers. You need communication. You NEED connection, but you don’t know where to start. You keep reaching out and they keep pulling away. You keep searching for answers and find yourself even more confused. You know that this relationship is worth saving, you just want to know what to do next.
You are not broken. You are not bad. It isn’t about your mistakes, it is about how you decide to repair them.
Tools for Growth
Together we can learn to heal. I will collaborate with you and your partner to identify your problem areas, toxic patterns, strengths and true needs. We will counter your struggles with proven strategies that will allow you to communicate effectively with your partner, understand how you and your partner get stuck and how to find your way out together. You can bring your toughest conflicts into session and we will practice skills in real time. When you choose online therapy, you’ll even be able to practice your new skills in the exact spots that your fights start. You’ll receive pdf’s, quizzes, assessment results and visuals from me to help you implement your positive changes at home.
You will do your best work as a couple with a therapist that you like, trust and feel comfortable with. Reach out to me for your free 15 minute phone consultation to see if I am the right fit for you.
Want more information about what to expect in session? Scroll to the bottom of this page for an overview of the sessions.
What to Expect in Session
Beginnings can be tough. So, I thought I would give you the run down of what the first few couples sessions will look like. After you complete the first session paperwork online, you will have your first session.
In our first session, we will go over the finer details of the paperwork, address any questions and then jump into how the two of you met and what is bringing you into therapy. I also send my couples a Gottman Connect assessment to complete. This assessment will give me a more detailed overview of what is going on for the two of you. You will also receive a pdf of the tools that will be helpful for you given the results of the assessment.
Our second session, we will complete a family map, so that I can understand where your strong and tense relationships are, what major events you have experienced in your life and patterns in family dynamics. We will also discuss your supportive friendships. I like to do the family maps with one partner at a time, so we can either split this session in half where I meet with one partner for the first half of the session and the other partner the second half of the session. OR I can meet with one partner during the second session and the other partner the third session.
Our third session (or fourth session), we will get specific in setting the goals that you have for therapy.
Throughout these sessions and in the sessions that follow we will also be discussing what is going on for you and what you are currently needing based on what you’re experiencing. I will be giving you tools along the way.